i dream of being possible

thing i'm really fucking tired of seeing

today i read yet another article or whatever by a white (i think, if not then white passing) trans women who thinks that bc she is better and more important and has enough privilege to disregard radfems, wrote a thing chock full of ableism and finger-wagging-holier-than-thouism. i guess this past week? this week? idk, was ‘terf” week or wahtever. which largely apepars to be some thing or other initiated by other white trans women with large platforms to argue against rad feminism or something.

(although, not all were white, since i read a thing or two by Fallon Fox)

anyway…

same old story

“zomg, the only ppl who care about radfems are privileged, white middle class trans women. but i, being a poor white trans woman, have better things to do with my time, like appropriate the struggles and experiences of trans women of colour while also ignoring the trans women of colour who are involved (see Fallon Fox above)”

the thing is, is that for a while i agreed. i agreed that radfems were fringe and generally turned off more ppl from their cause (just by being themselves) than anything any trans woman has done to oppose them…

HOWEVER

however

like many things in life, it turns out that ‘ignoring” or dismissing the impact that radfems have simply gives them leave and space to continue going on. and, lo and behold, it also turns out that — regardless of how little power and resources people think they may have — their actions disproportionately impact twoc.

surprising, i know. this is esp. true when we add in the other group most often targetted by radfems these days: sex workers.

the thing is.

the THING is.

IS that while radfems may be a fringe group within feminism (they aren”t), there are no shortage of people who aren”t radfems, but whose own conception and ideologies of gender match up enough with theirs, that they actually, you know are able to do a lot more than ppl think they can. bc while they may be unpopular (as many other kinds of feminists and feminisms are these days), their ideology isn”t, in fact, unpopular. this is why it has been so EASY for them to work within existing legal and medical and social frameworks to deny not only the womanhood of trans women of colour, but also our access to social and medical services.

and ignoring and/or dismissing them is basically hoping that non-radfems holding the same ideological position will dislike them more than they hate us. and this isn”t a bet i”m actually willing to make, since there appears to be no end to the hate that cis and/or white ppl have for twoc.

i also don”t get why the fuck ppl just can”t let ppl focus on things that matter to them. u don”t want fighting radfems to be your fight? well, do other things. no. really. do those things and leave it to ppl who want to do it. i personally don”t have any desire whatsoever to engage radfems (or, for that matter, feminism most days). but i also don”t think that my shit is more important or that i”m better than the ppl who have the resources do engage that shit.

generally, too?

when i think of white trans women and radfems my only real feeling is:

A PLAGUE ON BOTH YOUR HOUSES</p>