it disheartens me that so many of us keep up the idea
And that this idea is always, always grounded in some behaviour policing garbage.
That only if you do x, will you avoid dire fate y.
When it is clear that the value of x is usually 0 and nothing can stop some people from hurting you.
But somehow the discussion is always what is the value of x such that x > 0 that will suddenly cause people to care about you and to think you are worth protecting.
Because some victims are always to blame and will never deserve protection.